There will be a man and a woman and they are having sex. Up against a wall, in a bed, in a car, anywhere. Vertically, horizontally. Clothed or unclothed. None of that matters, because the outcome will be the same.
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What Does an Orgasm Feel Like?
If you ask 17 women "What does an orgasm feel like? Just like every body is different, every orgasm is different, but they all have one thing in common: They feel good. Whether from partnered sex or masturbation, there are few things that hit the spot as much as achieving orgasm. The way orgasms feel varies from person to person.
What Is an Orgasm?
When Sara Radin, a year-old writer in Brooklyn, started hooking up at age 16, she had a secret: She would orgasm while she and her partners were making out, and, by the time they got to sex, she was no longer interested in continuing. While premature orgasm is a phenomenon you most often hear about as it occurs for men, a study in Sexologies documented it for women. Over three percent experienced it so often that they met the criteria for female premature orgasm: frequently or always orgasming before they intended, a lack of control over their orgasms, and distress and relationship problems as a result. Another study in the Journal of Adolescent Health reported that 3. Serafim Carvalho, a psychiatrist, sexologist, and the lead author of the Portuguese study, tells me that a typical case of chronic female premature orgasm involves unwanted orgasms, negative feelings associated with them, and consequent culmination of the sexual interaction. The decision to end a sexual encounter because of premature orgasm can be borne of mental dismay or physical discomfort. Elizabeth, a year-old artist in the Bay Area who asked to keep her last name private, had these issues with premature orgasm. The orgasm itself was always physically satisfying, but I often felt guilty if my partner wasn't also able to finish during intercourse. Yet if he came first, sex was over. She finds it painful to continue after she orgasms, but she often pushes through anyway, sometimes faking an orgasm later.
But when? And how? Since Aristotle, researchers have looked for the biological and functional purposes of the female orgasm. Men need to have an orgasm to release sperm, but women do not need to orgasm to ovulate or become pregnant. Some researchers have suggested that orgasms persist because they have a psychological function in reproduction — they feel good, so they encourage women to have more sex.